Take Up Space

Winnie takes up whatever space she needs at that present moment (in this instance the entire camera scene, in others the entire door to the feed room). We should learn from her. People are afraid to take up too much space in their own lives. We are so afraid to be called selfish, or a bad mom, or a bad wife, or a bad employee. We choose to show up for our boss, our children, our partners, our parents before we show up for ourselves. We are the one person living our one life and yet we put ourselves last. We can advocate for and meet our needs and yet we constantly put the needs of others before our own.

At the end of the day, if we’re not too tired from checking boxes off someone else’s list and working towards others’ goals then we’ll work on our own goals. We say, if i’m not too tired from work then i’ll work on my passion project, i’ll workout if my partner can watch the baby, i’ll meditate if my kids don’t need me, i’ll stop by my moms house if I get my work project done.

When others need us we’re expected to drop everything and put forth our best effort. Yet when our own bodies and hearts cry to have our needs met we silence them until there’s time to “deal” with them. If you can’t consistently and authentically show up for yourself, in your own life, than how do you expect to be able to effectively show up for others? You can’t pour water from an empty pot. Stop caring so much about others expectations for you and care, both first & most, about what your expectations are for yourself.

Just like Winnie, take up the entire picture, take up your entire life, take up space, don’t worry if some think you look like a camera hog. The right people will think you look magical. 

Tell me how you’re authentically taking up space in your own life today!