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All Emotions are Valid and That Doesn’t Mean They Should Dictate Your Actions

All Emotions are Valid and That Doesn’t Mean They Should Dictate Your Actions

There are no wrong emotions, they all are valid. We cannot control how we feel about circumstances or events. Your truth is your truth. The initial feelings you have in response to events are always okay.
What you can control is how you choose to react and respond even when emotions are heightened. Just because your feelings and emotions are valid, doesn’t mean they give you an excuse to behave however you want. It’s important to keep in mind that your initial emotions do not consider many factors you’d prefer to consider when thinking with a rational mind and not one overcome with strong feelings. Your emotions do not consider your goals, the relationships you’d like to keep, or the work you’ve put in thus far.

What’s the Negativity Bias and How Do We Work with It?

What’s the Negativity Bias and How Do We Work with It?

In our world, for those of us who are fortunate enough to have our basic needs met, the constant negativity bias is no longer necessary for survival. The negativity bias, which was once an adaptive advantage, can therefore become maladaptive. So much so that a negative event can be detrimental to our work, relationships, health and happiness. Continually viewing things through the lens of the negativity bias can increase stress levels, impair our happiness and general quality of life. It also makes it harder to be patient and giving towards others.
Fortunately, there is a way to change the brain’s negativity bias. First, bring awareness to the fact that “bad” comes through stronger than “good.” Then, it’s a matter of training our brains for positivity. Actively become more attuned to positive emotions such as joy, contentment, pride, and love. Studies claim that for a positive experience to get into our long-term memory we should hold it in our field of attention for at least 10-20 seconds or it could disappear. This helps with sensitizing the amygdala to focus more on the good.

How to Fill Your Self-Care Cup Even with a Busy Schedule

How to Fill Your Self-Care Cup Even with a Busy Schedule

A strong and intentional morning routine is the key to a great day. It’s great to make your morning routine a priority, but the truth is we don’t always have hours to dedicate to it. Sometimes we sleep in, sometimes we have somewhere to be earlier than usual, sometimes we simply don’t have the time. There are a million different reasons. What will set you up for a great day, even when you don’t have much time to devote to yourself, is having a set of non-negotiables. These non-negotiables are activities that you know will help you have the best day that you can.

Before you open yourself up to the outside world and influence, do something for your mind, your body, and your soul. Develop quick practices you can do in each category as your non-negotiables. What exactly you do to fulfil these requirements may differ day to day. Taking care of your body might be a walk, a strength class, Pilates, or a stretch. An activity for your mind may be reading a few pages in your book, a passage of the daily stoic, a crossword puzzle, or listening to a podcast. Something for your soul may be meditating, getting out in nature, playing with your pets, prayer, watching the sunrise, or a gratitude practice.

Starting your morning with an activity for your mind, body, and soul will set you up to have an amazing day. If you’re pressed for time in the morning, or have obligations extremely early, extend yourself grace and do something in each of these three categories at some point during the day. Stay away from an all or nothing mentality. A 5 min stretch before bed is better than no movement at all. Reading a page in a book is better than not reading at all. Are challenging 45 minute workouts great? Sure. Is learning a new skill beneficial? Yes, but you don’t have to do activities that take a lot of time and effort every day. You can achieve the results you desire with consistent small steps.

Use a system of trial and error to find out what helps you feel your best. Your non-negotiables may look different and may change during different times in your life. I encourage you to have a morning routine and a couple non-negotiable activities that you can do no matter how much time you have or what your day looks like. Have an extensive morning routine to foster the relationship you have with yourself when you have time. Curate a few quick and easy non-negotiable practices to fill up your self-care cup when you have to hit the ground running. This will set you up for a great day no matter what you have on the agenda

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Be Purposefully Happy

Be Purposefully Happy

Sometimes happiness hits you, but most of the time it’s a choice you make. It’s something you have to purposefully create not happen upon. Becoming aware of this and intentionally creating happiness in the normalcy is where sustainable happiness lies.

Don’t live a life governed by your emotions

Don’t live a life governed by your emotions

“We cannot live being governed by how we feel. Our emotions are temporary and not always reflective of reality.” –Brianna Wiest in her book the: The Mountain is You. We’ve all been there. We feel strong emotions and want to react. But is that always 

Be Proud of Your Climb

Be Proud of Your Climb

If you feel stuck right now, remember it’s the small steps you take towards your goals that make all the difference. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Keep taking small steps towards your goals. One day you’ll look back and be amazed at how far you have come. Life is a series of highs and lows, of ebbs and flows. Learn to move calmly through the chaos. If you are in a trying time in your life, don’t worry it’s temporary. If you are in a joyous time in your life embrace it, it’s temporary.   

Be proud of your climb. Be proud of your mountains. Be proud of your pace. Be proud of the rests you took on the edge, of the views you enjoyed. Be proud of the times you slid down and got yourself back up.

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How to Make Homemade Cavatelli

How to Make Homemade Cavatelli

Some people show their love with gifts or words of affirmation, I show it with homemade pasta. I got this recipe from the blog The Clean Eating Couple. Liz, the owner of the website, has tons of great recipes, so if you haven’t already, you should definitely check her out. Cavatelli is the perfect place to start if you want to make homemade pasta. You don’t need any fancy machinery, just a simple pasta board you can get for $9.00 on Amazon. Enjoy!

What is Your Best?

What is Your Best?

Do your best. We hear this statement often. And what does it mean? Feeling you did your best should enable you to go to sleep at night feeling fulfilled and satisfied with the activities you engaged in that day. Wanting to do your best encourages you to put forth the effort needed to meet your goals. How do you define your best? The answer depends on your individual goals and gets harder to navigate the more you look outside yourself for the meaning.

Raw Brussel Sprout and Egg Salad

Raw Brussel Sprout and Egg Salad

This dish is seriously delicious! It’s hands down my favorite salad I’ve ever made. It’s simple and easy to throw together for a quick lunch and is perfect to meal prep. It’ll keep you full and satisfied plus it gets those greens in! Brussel sprouts are high in fiber and antioxidants. They help protect against cancer and help with high blood pressure, high cholesterol, heart disease, and diabetes. This salad will leave you feeling your best!

 

Ingredients:

  • Brussel Sprouts (I brought mine from trader joes)
  • Olive oil
  • Juice from two lemons
  • Dijon mustard
  • Salt
  • Pepper
  • Parmesan cheese flakes
  • Two hard boiled eggs

 

Directions:

  1. Wash the Brussel Sprouts. I rinse mine, let them sit in a water and apple cider vinegar mixture for 5 minutes, and then rinse them again.
  2. Either chop or grate your Brussel Sprouts. It’s nice to have a mixture of both textures, but it’s easier and faster to chop them.
  3. Make your dressing. Combine lemon juice, Olive Oil, Dijon mustard, Salt, and Pepper. Whisk mixture together and drizzle on top of Brussel Sprouts.
  4. Add parmesan cheese flakes
  5. Grate hard boiled eggs on top.
  6. Mix together and enjoy!
The Truth about Happiness

The Truth about Happiness

Challenge: make a list of the times you have felt genuinely happy or at peace. This list will remind you that your happiness never came from things looking seemingly perfect on the outside. Your happiness came from being present and open and connected to yourself