Tag: perspective

All Emotions are Valid and That Doesn’t Mean They Should Dictate Your Actions
September 22, 2022

All Emotions are Valid and That Doesn’t Mean They Should Dictate Your Actions

There are no wrong emotions, they all are valid. We cannot control how we feel about circumstances or events. Your truth is your truth. The initial feelings you have in response to events are always okay.
What you can control is how you choose to react and respond even when emotions are heightened. Just because your feelings and emotions are valid, doesn’t mean they give you an excuse to behave however you want. It’s important to keep in mind that your initial emotions do not consider many factors you’d prefer to consider when thinking with a rational mind and not one overcome with strong feelings. Your emotions do not consider your goals, the relationships you’d like to keep, or the work you’ve put in thus far.

Mental Health, Mindset & Mental Health, Thoughts, Uncategorized
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by lunchroomlitigation
How to Fill Your Self-Care Cup Even with a Busy Schedule
August 27, 2022

How to Fill Your Self-Care Cup Even with a Busy Schedule

A strong and intentional morning routine is the key to a great day. It’s great to make your morning routine a priority, but the truth is we don’t always have hours to dedicate to it. Sometimes we sleep in, sometimes we have somewhere to be earlier than usual, sometimes we simply don’t have the time. There are a million different reasons. What will set you up for a great day, even when you don’t have much time to devote to yourself, is having a set of non-negotiables. These non-negotiables are activities that you know will help you have the best day that you can.
Before you open yourself up to the outside world and influence, do something for your mind, your body, and your soul. Develop quick practices you can do in each category as your non-negotiables.

Mental Health, Mindset & Mental Health, Thoughts, Uncategorized
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by lunchroomlitigation
Be Purposefully Happy
August 15, 2022

Be Purposefully Happy

I recently saw a quote on a social platform about being purposefully happy. It highlighted an aspect of life that I think many people don’t pay attention to, that happiness requires an intention to be happy. Sometimes we do happen upon happiness. There are times in life when the circumstances are just right, the pieces feel like they’ve come together, and happiness hits us. These are unexpected joyful moments, cheerful milestones, or hard work that finally pays off. This happiness is the exception, not the rule. Most happiness isn’t something we stumble upon. Most of life isn’t celebrations like meeting the love of our life, adopting a puppy, or getting a promotion at work.

Most of life happens in the daily to-do lists, in the ordinary normalcy of living. You don’t want to live for the big happy moments, because those moments don’t come around every day. Finding happiness in your daily life is key. Determining how to find happiness in the day set out in front of you is a worthy endeavor. This is when being purposefully happy becomes important. Savor the taste of your coffee in the morning, enjoy the feeling of changing seasons, find joy in putting your children to bed every night. Be intentional about creating a life where you find happiness in the normalcy.
Remember that happiness doesn’t equal easy. Often happiness comes after doing the hard things, after working for it, fighting for it, after creating new patterns to allow it. It comes from taking the time and effort to determine what makes you genuinely happy. From changing your routines and making different choices. Happiness is recognizing that things aren’t perfect and being happy anyway. Happiness comes from being content with where you are instead of needing more. It’s an awareness of all that can be done and being content with what was done already.

Sometimes happiness hits you, but most of the time it’s a choice you make. It’s something you have to purposefully create not happen upon. Becoming aware of this and intentionally creating happiness in the normalcy is where sustainable happiness lies.

Mindset & Mental Health, Perspective, Thoughts, Uncategorized
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by lunchroomlitigation
Understand Your Why, Understand Yourself
August 5, 2022

Understand Your Why, Understand Yourself

I want to bring your attention to your why. So much of what you do day in and day out is done on autopilot. Science estimates that 95 percent of our brain’s activity is unconscious. That means that an overwhelming majority of the decisions you make are done subconsciously. You do things without even fully realizing you’re doing them sometimes. So many people have no idea what the reasoning is behind their actions, emotions, and goals. I want to bring your attention to your why in hopes that you’ll take time to consider it before taking action. In doing this, you’ll bring some of your actions out of subconscious autopilot and into conscious and intentional action. Next time you feel motivated to do something, ask yourself why. When you feel emotional, ask yourself why. Feel hurt by something? Dive into the why.

Mindset & Mental Health, Perspective, Thoughts, Uncategorized
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by lunchroomlitigation
Don’t live a life governed by your emotions
June 1, 2022

Don’t live a life governed by your emotions

“We cannot live being governed by how we feel. Our emotions are temporary and not always reflective of reality.” –Brianna Wiest in her book the: The Mountain is You. We’ve all been there. We feel strong emotions and want to react. But is that always …

Mental Health, Mindset & Mental Health, Perspective, Thoughts
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by lunchroomlitigation
Meeting Your Needs
May 19, 2022

Meeting Your Needs

At the end of the day the only person responsible for your life, for your happiness, and your wellbeing is you. So, get comfortable meeting your needs. That doesn’t mean you have to handle everything yourself. It also doesn’t mean you can’t rely on others to meet your needs. What it does mean is it is your responsibility to reach out to others and tell them what you need. It means it’s up to you to identify when situations are and are not working for you. It’s up to you to build support systems for yourself and to respond when your needs are not being met. It’s up to you to show up for yourself.

 

The first time I was asked what I needed in a situation was one of the hardest questions I’ve been asked. I had never really thought about it. What did I need? I had no idea. I knew when things felt good, I knew when things felt bad. However, identifying and asking for what I needed and answering honestly (not just saying it’s all good when it’s not) was a foreign concept to me. I was an attorney, I advocated for others all the time. However, advocating for myself, before things reached a tipping point and I felt like I had to fight for myself, was a foreign concept.

 

Learning how to identify and communicate my needs to a partner or a friend has become a huge life hack. It allows me to make adjustments before things become an issue. It’s also a great trust building activity both with myself and those around me. Consistently spending time to identify and take action to meet my needs has built confidence around the fact that when I need me, I’ll be there. It reinforced that I can trust myself to take care of me. In regards to others, it’s an act of vulnerability to honestly communicate what you need from people. When individuals in your life take those needs seriously and act accordingly, it builds authentic trust and connection.

 

It’s up to you to take care of you. One day you’ll see you’re your greatest gift.

Mental Health, Mindset & Mental Health, Perspective, poetry, Thoughts, Uncategorized
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by lunchroomlitigation
How to Create a Bad Mood Tool Box
April 29, 2022

How to Create a Bad Mood Tool Box

Just as pilots plot their routes before take-off and have a GPS to help them navigate if the weather turns, you too can plot a way out of your bad mood before it happens. Create a bad mood tool box that contains a list of things you can run through to help you navigate your way out of the bad mood cloud and back to enjoying life. This bad mood tool box will be your guide back to inner peace.

Mental Health, Mindset & Mental Health, Perspective, Thoughts
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by lunchroomlitigation
Create a Good Things Photo Album
April 22, 2022

Create a Good Things Photo Album

This practice is a game changer. Creating a place where you can look at things that bring you joy is a simple and effective way to bring your focus out of the things that are wrong and into all the things that are going right. …

Mental Health, Mindset & Mental Health, Perspective, Thoughts
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by lunchroomlitigation
Rock and a hard place
April 11, 2022

Rock and a hard place

Do you feel like you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place? Is something causing you frustration and you don’t know what to do about it? Have you searched and thought but still can’t find the right answer? If you thought through every angle, tried every approach, and you are still no closer to a “solution” maybe there isn’t one.

You can’t fix everything. You don’t have to fix everything. You don’t have to have it all figured out. Regain your joy by leaning into the aspects of your life that share and promote love. Choose to give others and/or yourself the benefit of the doubt. Believe it will work out the way it’s supposed to. The friction you feel is fear. Fear in being unable to control a situation, uncertain of the plan, unsure of how it’s going to work out. The truth is no matter how much you plan, you can never fully control situations outside of yourself.

Choose love over fear. Put your energy into people, events, and situations that bring you joy. Use moments of discomfort as opportunities for growth and  learning. Choose not to let the uncertain aspects of your life steal joy from the good aspects. When choosing love, when acting through love, you can’t go wrong.

There are caveats to this approach. There is a difference between life events like being in disagreements with friends and processing the trauma of a loved ones passing. There will be times when you may not be able to choose joy for a while and that’s okay. Everyone processes differently and life can be heartbreaking. Remember, even if you are going through some of the most difficult times of your life, it won’t be like this forever. You can find joy again even if right now you cannot possibly see how.

Mental Health, Mindset & Mental Health, Perspective, Thoughts
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by lunchroomlitigation
What is Your Best?
March 26, 2022

What is Your Best?

Do your best. We hear this statement often. And what does it mean? Feeling you did your best should enable you to go to sleep at night feeling fulfilled and satisfied with the activities you engaged in that day. Wanting to do your best encourages you to put forth the effort needed to meet your goals. How do you define your best? The answer depends on your individual goals and gets harder to navigate the more you look outside yourself for the meaning.

Mental Health, Mindset & Mental Health, Perspective, Thoughts
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by lunchroomlitigation