Our reality is created by our perception of external events. Our perception of external events is created by our past environments, past experiences, and the thoughts we think. Our thoughts turn into our beliefs. Our beliefs and thoughts dictate how we experience the world.
The idea may be foreign to you, but you can choose the thoughts you have. You can experience a negative thought and instead of continuing on with that thought, you can choose again. You can gently release thoughts that bring you down and replace them with thoughts that brings you joy. By changing your thoughts, you gradually change your beliefs. By changing your beliefs, you change your reality. You can make any situation instantly better but simply choosing thought that feels better to you.
For example, you can choose to think that the fight you had with your sister means you will never get along, or, you can use it as an opportunity for growth. You can use it to discover where the disconnect is between you. You can use it as an opportunity to lean into the things causing friction instead of pushing them away.
You can view your car flooding to mean the world is out to get you, or you can view it as an opportunity to practice patience and calm in difficult moments.
The happiest people are not the people who have everything go perfectly well for them all the time. The happiest people are the ones who can lean into the discomfort, who can find the silver linings, who choose not to let negativity control their day and moods. The happiest people are the ones who find joy in life. They are the ones who count their blessing instead of their hardships. Next time something goes wrong, use it as an opportunity to take stock of everything you are grateful for. Use it as an opportunity to practice reaching for a higher feeling thought.