Know Your Why: Your why is your truth. It’s the reason you are implementing changes in the first place. Identify your why before setting your boundary. Your why can be anything as long as it is authentic to you. It may be so you have …
We already know life can be hard, I’m not discrediting or disregarding your hardships, but if you want to change the narrative of your life then focus on the beautiful things. Talk about the beautiful things. Share the beautiful things with friends and family. Call your friend to tell them the amazing thing that happened at work. Journal about what is going well for you, about how beautiful the rain looked hitting against your window while you were curled up on your couch.
What we focus on creates our experience. Make your experience, your life, nothing sort of what life is, beautiful. Don’t miss it.
Controllable
Humans, in actuality, can control very little external to us. We don’t know if something outside of our control will bring us to our knees. What we can control is if we get up and how we choose to perceive events. We decide how we react and how we move forward.
With the understanding that very little is actually controllable, I have a practice of controlling the controllable when things feel uncontrollable. It’s a bit of a tongue twister but bear with me. Controlling the controllable is doing what you can. It’s taking the steps you can take. It’s doing the things that will bring you closer to where you want to be.
The controllable can be anything and is unique to you and your specific goals. It can be organizing the pantry, doing a self-care routine, taking deep breaths, getting a workout in, grabbing lunch with a friend, anything to help manage big feelings. It’s important to sit in the discomfort of these feelings, you don’t want to use this practice as an attempt to block out negative emotions. Blocking out or numbing negative emotions will only make them come back stronger. But you don’t want these feelings to control how you act. Controlling the controllable helps you step out of your emotional mind and into your logical mind. It helps you gain control of your nervous system. This allows your logical brain a chance to take over and show you that things aren’t as bad as your thoughts would lead you to believe. You are then able to choose how you would like to proceed and respond as opposed to blindly reacting out of emotion or fear. Don’t let the rumination, the what-if, the could-be, the almost-was, control your life. Controlling the controllable is a tool you can add to your toolbox to get out of your head when you want to stop or prevent a spiraling thought process.
There are many methods, systems, and/or tasks that may or may not work for you to get you closer to where you want to be. Use trial and error to figure out what systems work for you. Hire a coach if you want to try new systems, be held accountable, or be encouraged through the process.
Controlling the controllable is doing what you can to set yourself up for success. It’s figuring out what you can do today that will get you closer to where you want to be or it is repeating practices that have helped you in the past. For example, if you want to get up earlier, controlling the controllable would be going to bed earlier, laying your clothes out the night before, leaving your phone outside your bedroom, or having the right temperature in your room when you sleep. If you’ve noticed having an organized living environment gives you mental clarity, then perhaps it’s taking the time to organize your closet.
The point is there are things you can do, steps you can take, to use your energy in beneficial ways and bring your goals closer to fruition. Utilize the controllable to help yourself, to give yourself a lifeline when things start feeling heavy.
Surrender
There usually comes a point in every journey where you’ve done all that you can do. Where there are no more steps that you can take. Where it’s time to trust in yourself, in your process, in your journey. At some point the Olympians stop training. At some point it’s time to run the race. To take the test. To go after your dream job. When that time comes, its trusting and surrendering, which is really what you’ve been doing all along, that will get you through.
Trust that whatever happens is happening for your highest good. Trust that both the universe and yourself are taking care of you. Surrender to heartbreak, to failure, to disappointment. Let it break you open and choose to see the beauty and the growth of it. Even if you can’t see the reasoning for why something is happening from where you currently are, trust that you’re going to come out stronger and more evolved because of it.
Recognize where rumination must make way for surrender. If you cannot think of any solutions, maybe there are none. Perhaps you just have to sit with it, surrender, and trust.
This easy hands off soup is a perfect lunch or dinner for fall days! It’s also great to make as a precursor to thanksgiving dinner! It’s simple and filled with healthy ingredients that scream fall and cozy vibes. Enjoy!
When you choose to focus on and stay in a fear based mindset, you are blocking good things from coming to you. When you choose love, your energy sends out positive vibrations. The energy you send out into the world is the energy you receive back from the universe. By turning towards love, you attract more love and more positivity into your life. Be open to love. Be open to the idea that your problems will be solved in unexpected ways. Be open to creative possibilities. Believe in abundance, believe that everything will work out the way it is supposed to.
Choose to enjoy the now and expect good things to come to you.
Sam Ozkural created the base for this recipe. She has some great recipes. Furthermore, she has great tips, tricks, & hacks so if you haven’t checked her out, I would recommend it. This recipe is a go to for me because it’s simple, easy, and makes a great soft chewy cookie. It’s on the healthier side which is a plus. It’s not a super sweet cookie so if you’re looking for decadence this is not for you. It’s a simple yummy treat you can feel good about eating.
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Optional: you can make these holiday themed and add 1/3 cup of pumpkin in the fall, M&Ms for Halloween, or crush peppermint for winter. They are versatile.
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All feelings are ok and valid but they do not have to rule you, they can pass through you. Begin a practice of letting the negative thoughts drift back to where they came from, nowhere.
You don’t need anyone to come. The reason you’re waiting for, and romanticizing the idea of, someone to come save you is because you don’t think you can do it yourself. You don’t think you are capable of mustering up the strength to accomplish what you want to accomplish. But here is the truth, you are capable. You are in the best position to change your life. In fact, you are the only person who can change your life. Others can try to make you eat the vegetables, go to therapy, tell the truth, put the bottle down, leave the toxic relationship but not until you actually want to change will you change.
Save this post and the next time you’re in a bad mood run through these three things.
Combine Ginger, Turmeric, Red Chili Flakes, onion salt, mushroom company umami, Garlic salt, juice from one lime and ½ a lemon, 1 tbsp olive oil, honey, rice vinegar, and toasted sesame oil into a marinade. Put marinade on top of salmon in a bag, stasher bag, or container. Let salmon marinade for 45 mins. Pre heat oven to 425F. Line a baking dish with asparagus and add about 2 tbsp. of olive oil until asparagus is coated. Place salmon on top of asparagus and drizzle remaining marinated on top of fish. Cut remaining half of lemon into wedges and place on top of fish. Cook about 10 minutes depending on the size of the fish. When the salmon easily flakes with a fork, it’s done. Enjoy!
