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Challenge: make a list of the times you have felt genuinely happy or at peace. This list will remind you that your happiness never came from things looking seemingly perfect on the outside. Your happiness came from being present and open and connected to yourself …
Everything in life is temporary. So when you feel content and satisfied, ground yourself in that feeling. If you’re used to chaos it can be tempting to focus on if or when things may go wrong. Worrying about all the ways your peace can be disturbed won’t better prepare you to deal if it is. Anxiously anticipating will merely take away from the joyful moment’s life offers us. Those joyful moments are what make up a good life. Don’t skip though the good to prepare for what’s next, resist that urge. Sink into the good. If you are content, let life simply be good.
Journal about the good, write daily lists of all that you’re thankful for, smile to yourself. Pause to notice the simple delightful things around you. Lean into the positive energy. By doing this you’ll attract more of the good stuff instead of abruptly ending it.
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Small continuous actions are what lead to monumental changes. Consistent actions towards your goals are what lead to sustainable and long term change. Although, we would all like to have a huge “ah-ha” moment where everything clicks into place, this is rarely what happens.
The moments where we feel like things are clicking are created by the 1,000 small moments that came before it. The big moments are created by the times we took tiny steps towards our goals, when we felt stuck but kept going.
The instances you chose to add a vegetable to one meal had to come before you could regularly eat a balanced diet. The hundreds of time you wrote a paper and scored below average had to come before you could get an A. Running for 5 minutes had to come before you could finish a marathon. Paying $20.00 towards your loans had to come before you became debt free.
We often discredit these “small” steps in the right direction. We want the big moments where it seems like everything serendipitously came together. The graduation, the wedding, paying off your debt, working out regularly. But those huge moments are the results of thousands of small choices made day after day, year after year. It’s the small moves in a general direction continuously repeated despite setbacks, mistakes, and failures that matter.
Next time you feel discouraged remember it’s the small things that change your life. It doesn’t have to be perfect; you only have to keep getting up and keep moving forward.
Today I challenge you to take one small step towards your goals. What’s one action you can take right now to bring you closer to the person you want to be or the life you want to live? It can be anything but here’s a list you can choose from if you’re feeling uninspired: drink a class of water, make your annual doctor’s appointment that you’ve been putting off, call your mom, write a letter to your grandma and mail it to her, go for a walk, organize your t-shirt drawer, plan out what you’re having for dinner this week, eat some blueberries, make some tea and read a book, invest in yourself, stretch for 5 minutes, meditate for one minute, put $20.00 into your savings account, go look in the mirror and give yourself a high five.
What’s one thing you can do today? Keep looking for the small things you can do. Those small actions make all the difference.
You have to commit to your goals; you have to consistently work on them. If you find yourself having a hard time staying on track and focused then take an audit of the things you’re consuming.
Whenever I find myself in a lull, or like I’m “stuck”, I take inventory of the things I’m consuming. I can usually pinpoint where my energy is being used up in places where I’d prefer it to be going towards other things.
Energy and focus are finite resources. At some point during the day, they’re going to run out. When we want to evolve, it’s important we use our energy and our ability to focus to create things we want to and not let it dwindle away.
If you have goals but find yourself struggling to execute, sit down and take an honest look at what you’re consuming. This includes social media, television, people, text messages, family members, gossip, the news. All of it. Where are you putting your energy?
The holidays are a joyful time of year for many but it can also be overwhelming. It’s the season of more. Many times that’s more love, more yummy food, more warmth, more family, more rest. But it’s also more money spent, more parties to attend, more cooking to be done, more conversations to be had, more expectations you want to meet. If you’re feeling overwhelmed and drained it doesn’t mean you’re a grinch, it means you’re human. It’s normal and it happens.
If you are able to step away this holiday season without it having the adverse effect of making you more stressed once it’s time to step back in, that’s great. Keep doing that. But if you find your stepping away is creating more stress than perhaps it’s doing more harm than good. Here’s 7 tips to combat overwhelm this holiday season.
It doesn’t matter how it looks; it matters how it feels.
Spend your energy on it feeling good instead of looking good. That shift changes everything. Are you satisfied with your actions? Are you fulfilling your purpose? Do you know what your purpose is? Do you wake up most mornings looking forward to the day ahead? Are you working towards your goals? Do you feel like you’re making progress in your life? Can you sit alone with yourself and feel peace? If your answer to any of these questions is no, coaching is a great place to start.
This ideology can be applied to any facet of life. The feeling you get when you walk into your home is more important than how it looks to others. How your relationships feel are more important than how they look. How you feel in your work is more important than how it looks to others.
The vibes don’t lie, you only have to learn to trust them. Trust your inner voice and go where love flows. Put your energy into the things and the people that leave you feeling good. The more you do that, the more aligned your life will be. The more aligned your life is with who you are and what you value, the happier you will be.
Don’t judge yourself if you fall back into unhealthy coping mechanisms. Growth is not linear. There is no straight line towards some “ideal” version of yourself. Life is messy, growth is messy. It’s called growing pains for a reason. The process is not always pleasant or predictable.
If you fall into negative thinking or unhealthy patterns the answer is to get back to the healthy habits as quickly as possible and to get curious about what caused you to fall back. Use it as an opportunity to get clear on what causes you to fall back to unhealthy habits. Find out what triggers you, what needs to be healed, what is and is not working for you. Brainstorm ways to set yourself up for success. Use each set back as a teaching moment, as an opportunity to learn a little more. Even if you’ve been here before, use each set back as an opportunity to dig a little deeper, to heal a little more, to learn about what does and does not work for you.
