Month: November 2021

How to Set Boundaries in 5 Easy Steps

How to Set Boundaries in 5 Easy Steps

Know Your Why: Your why is your truth. It’s the reason you are implementing changes in the first place. Identify your why before setting your boundary. Your why can be anything as long as it is authentic to you. It may be so you have 

The Beautiful Things

The Beautiful Things

We already know life can be hard, I’m not discrediting or disregarding your hardships, but if you want to change the narrative of your life then focus on the beautiful things. Talk about the beautiful things. Share the beautiful things with friends and family. Call your friend to tell them the amazing thing that happened at work. Journal about what is going well for you, about how beautiful the rain looked hitting against your window while you were curled up on your couch.
What we focus on creates our experience. Make your experience, your life, nothing sort of what life is, beautiful. Don’t miss it.

Control the Controllable and Surrender

Control the Controllable and Surrender

Controllable

Humans, in actuality, can control very little external to us. We don’t know if something outside of our control will bring us to our knees. What we can control is if we get up and how we choose to perceive events. We decide how we react and how we move forward.

With the understanding that very little is actually controllable, I have a practice of controlling the controllable when things feel uncontrollable. It’s a bit of a tongue twister but bear with me. Controlling the controllable is doing what you can. It’s taking the steps you can take. It’s doing the things that will bring you closer to where you want to be.

The controllable can be anything and is unique to you and your specific goals. It can be organizing the pantry, doing a self-care routine, taking deep breaths, getting a workout in, grabbing lunch with a friend, anything to help manage big feelings. It’s important to sit in the discomfort of these feelings, you don’t want to use this practice as an attempt to block out negative emotions. Blocking out or numbing negative emotions will only make them come back stronger. But you don’t want these feelings to control how you act. Controlling the controllable helps you step out of your emotional mind and into your logical mind. It helps you gain control of your nervous system. This allows your logical brain a chance to take over and show you that things aren’t as bad as your thoughts would lead you to believe. You are then able to choose how you would like to proceed and respond as opposed to blindly reacting out of emotion or fear. Don’t let the rumination, the what-if, the could-be, the almost-was, control your life. Controlling the controllable is a tool you can add to your toolbox to get out of your head when you want to stop or prevent a spiraling thought process.

 There are many methods, systems, and/or tasks that may or may not work for you to get you closer to where you want to be. Use trial and error to figure out what systems work for you. Hire a coach if you want to try new systems, be held accountable, or be encouraged through the process.

Controlling the controllable is doing what you can to set yourself up for success. It’s figuring out what you can do today that will get you closer to where you want to be or it is repeating practices that have helped you in the past. For example, if you want to get up earlier, controlling the controllable would be going to bed earlier, laying your clothes out the night before, leaving your phone outside your bedroom, or having the right temperature in your room when you sleep. If you’ve noticed having an organized living environment gives you mental clarity, then perhaps it’s taking the time to organize your closet.

The point is there are things you can do, steps you can take, to use your energy in beneficial ways and bring your goals closer to fruition. Utilize the controllable to help yourself, to give yourself a lifeline when things start feeling heavy.

 

Surrender

There usually comes a point in every journey where you’ve done all that you can do. Where there are no more steps that you can take. Where it’s time to trust in yourself, in your process, in your journey. At some point the Olympians stop training. At some point it’s time to run the race. To take the test. To go after your dream job. When that time comes, its trusting and surrendering, which is really what you’ve been doing all along, that will get you through.

Trust that whatever happens is happening for your highest good. Trust that both the universe and yourself are taking care of you. Surrender to heartbreak, to failure, to disappointment. Let it break you open and choose to see the beauty and the growth of it. Even if you can’t see the reasoning for why something is happening from where you currently are, trust that you’re going to come out stronger and more evolved because of it.

Recognize where rumination must make way for surrender. If you cannot think of any solutions, maybe there are none. Perhaps you just have to sit with it, surrender, and trust.

 

Easy Squash Soup

Easy Squash Soup

This easy hands off soup is a perfect lunch or dinner for fall days! It’s also great to make as a precursor to thanksgiving dinner! It’s simple and filled with healthy ingredients that scream fall and cozy vibes. Enjoy!

Choose Love Over Fear

Choose Love Over Fear

When you choose to focus on and stay in a fear based mindset, you are blocking good things from coming to you. When you choose love, your energy sends out positive vibrations. The energy you send out into the world is the energy you receive back from the universe. By turning towards love, you attract more love and more positivity into your life. Be open to love. Be open to the idea that your problems will be solved in unexpected ways. Be open to creative possibilities. Believe in abundance, believe that everything will work out the way it is supposed to.
Choose to enjoy the now and expect good things to come to you.

Healthy Homemade Cookies

Healthy Homemade Cookies

Sam Ozkural created the base for this recipe. She has some great recipes. Furthermore, she has great tips, tricks, & hacks so if you haven’t checked her out, I would recommend it. This recipe is a go to for me because it’s simple, easy, and makes a great soft chewy cookie. It’s on the healthier side which is a plus. It’s not a super sweet cookie so if you’re looking for decadence this is not for you. It’s a simple yummy treat you can feel good about eating.

 

Ingredients:

  • 1 Cup Nut Butter
  • 1/3 Cup Rolled Oats or Almond Flour
  • 1/3 Cup Maple Syrup
  • 1 Cup Dark Chocolate chips
  • ½ Teaspoon Baking Soda
  • 1 Tablespoon Vanilla
  • 1 Egg

 

Optional: you can make these holiday themed and add 1/3 cup of pumpkin in the fall, M&Ms for Halloween, or crush peppermint for winter. They are versatile.

 

Directions:

  • Preheat oven to 350 F
  • Mix all ingredient together in bowl
  • Place cookie shaped dough on parchment lined trey. The mixture is wet so use a spoon to scoop it out.
  • Cook for 15 minutes

 

 

Healthy Homemade Cookies
Healthy Homemade Cookies
The Negatives

The Negatives

All feelings are ok and valid but they do not have to rule you, they can pass through you. Begin a practice of letting the negative thoughts drift back to where they came from, nowhere.