The Gap Between Knowing Better and Doing Better

The Gap Between Knowing Better and Doing Better

There is a period, the time of which is different for everyone, where a gap exists between knowing better and doing better. It is when you have taken the step of becoming self-aware of what habits are no longer serving you, or are hindering you from enjoying your life, however you find yourself continuing to fall into the same unhealthy patterns nonetheless.

Our tendency to fall back into what’s familiar, even if it’s not what’s best for us is why it’s imperative to make healthy coping habits part of your daily routine. Don’t solely keep healthy habits in your back pocket for when life gets hard. Practice them and strengthen them. This will reinforce the positive consequences of their use. The more practice you have, the more familiar these habits will become. The more familiar the healthy habit, especially when times get rough, the more likely you will turn to it instead of a destructive habit.

Go Out of the Way for Yourself

Go Out of the Way for Yourself

We go out of the way for the people we love. It’s often how we show them we love and support them. We make extravagant homemade dinners for our families, we pick out the perfect presents for our friends, we buy bagels for our meetings 

The Truth about Happiness

The Truth about Happiness

Challenge: make a list of the times you have felt genuinely happy or at peace. This list will remind you that your happiness never came from things looking seemingly perfect on the outside. Your happiness came from being present and open and connected to yourself 

Sink Into the Good

Sink Into the Good

Everything in life is temporary. So when you feel content and satisfied, ground yourself in that feeling. If you’re used to chaos it can be tempting to focus on if or when things may go wrong. Worrying about all the ways your peace can be 

Diminishing Returns

Diminishing Returns

Do you find yourself wondering if a particular habit you’ve developed is one you should keep in your life? The concept of diminishing returns is that proportionally smaller benefits or profits are derived as more money or energy is invested. Smoking is an example of 

A mind blowing singular breakthrough is not what changes your life. A micro shift is.

A mind blowing singular breakthrough is not what changes your life. A micro shift is.

Small continuous actions are what lead to monumental changes. Consistent actions towards your goals are what lead to sustainable and long term change. Although, we would all like to have a huge “ah-ha” moment where everything clicks into place, this is rarely what happens.
The moments where we feel like things are clicking are created by the 1,000 small moments that came before it. The big moments are

Having Trouble Focusing? Look at What You’re Consuming

Having Trouble Focusing? Look at What You’re Consuming

You have to commit to your goals; you have to consistently work on them. If you find yourself having a hard time staying on track and focused then take an audit of the things you’re consuming.
Whenever I find myself in a lull, or like I’m “stuck”, I take inventory of the things I’m consuming. I can usually pinpoint where my energy is being used up in places where I’d prefer it to be going towards other things.
Energy and focus are finite resources. At some point during the day, they’re going to run out. When we want to evolve, it’s important we use our energy and our ability to focus to create things we want to and not let it dwindle away.
If you have goals but find yourself struggling to execute, sit down and take an honest look at what you’re consuming. This includes social media, television, people, text messages, family members, gossip, the news. All of it. Where are you putting your energy?

7 Ways to Combat Feeling Overwhelmed This Holiday Season

7 Ways to Combat Feeling Overwhelmed This Holiday Season

The holidays are a joyful time of year for many but it can also be overwhelming. It’s the season of more. Many times that’s more love, more yummy food, more warmth, more family, more rest. But it’s also more money spent, more parties to attend, more cooking to be done, more conversations to be had, more expectations you want to meet. If you’re feeling overwhelmed and drained it doesn’t mean you’re a grinch, it means you’re human. It’s normal and it happens.

If you are able to step away this holiday season without it having the adverse effect of making you more stressed once it’s time to step back in, that’s great. Keep doing that. But if you find your stepping away is creating more stress than perhaps it’s doing more harm than good. Here’s 7 tips to combat overwhelm this holiday season.

It Doesn’t Matter How it Looks, it Matters How it Feels

It Doesn’t Matter How it Looks, it Matters How it Feels

It doesn’t matter how it looks; it matters how it feels. Spend your energy on it feeling good instead of looking good. That shift changes everything. Are you satisfied with your actions? Are you fulfilling your purpose? Do you know what your purpose is? Do 

Growth is Not Linear

Growth is Not Linear

Don’t judge yourself if you fall back into unhealthy coping mechanisms. Growth is not linear. There is no straight line towards some “ideal” version of yourself. Life is messy, growth is messy. It’s called growing pains for a reason. The process is not always pleasant or predictable.

If you fall into negative thinking or unhealthy patterns the answer is to get back to the healthy habits as quickly as possible and to get curious about what caused you to fall back. Use it as an opportunity to get clear on what causes you to fall back to unhealthy habits. Find out what triggers you, what needs to be healed, what is and is not working for you. Brainstorm ways to set yourself up for success. Use each set back as a teaching moment, as an opportunity to learn a little more. Even if you’ve been here before, use each set back as an opportunity to dig a little deeper, to heal a little more, to learn about what does and does not work for you.