It doesn’t matter how it looks; it matters how it feels. Spend your energy on it feeling good instead of looking good. That shift changes everything. Are you satisfied with your actions? Are you fulfilling your purpose? Do you know what your purpose is? Do …
Don’t judge yourself if you fall back into unhealthy coping mechanisms. Growth is not linear. There is no straight line towards some “ideal” version of yourself. Life is messy, growth is messy. It’s called growing pains for a reason. The process is not always pleasant or predictable.
If you fall into negative thinking or unhealthy patterns the answer is to get back to the healthy habits as quickly as possible and to get curious about what caused you to fall back. Use it as an opportunity to get clear on what causes you to fall back to unhealthy habits. Find out what triggers you, what needs to be healed, what is and is not working for you. Brainstorm ways to set yourself up for success. Use each set back as a teaching moment, as an opportunity to learn a little more. Even if you’ve been here before, use each set back as an opportunity to dig a little deeper, to heal a little more, to learn about what does and does not work for you.
Know Your Why: Your why is your truth. It’s the reason you are implementing changes in the first place. Identify your why before setting your boundary. Your why can be anything as long as it is authentic to you. It may be so you have …
We already know life can be hard, I’m not discrediting or disregarding your hardships, but if you want to change the narrative of your life then focus on the beautiful things. Talk about the beautiful things. Share the beautiful things with friends and family. Call your friend to tell them the amazing thing that happened at work. Journal about what is going well for you, about how beautiful the rain looked hitting against your window while you were curled up on your couch.
What we focus on creates our experience. Make your experience, your life, nothing sort of what life is, beautiful. Don’t miss it.
The point is there are things you can do, steps you can take, to use your energy in beneficial ways and bring your goals closer to fruition. Utilize the controllable to help yourself, to give yourself a lifeline when things start feeling heavy.
There usually comes a point in every journey where you’ve done all that you can do. Where there are no more steps that you can take. Where it’s time to trust in yourself, in your process, in your journey. At some point the Olympians stop training. At some point it’s time to run the race. To take the test. To go after your dream job. When that time comes, its trusting and surrendering, which is really what you’ve been doing all along, that will get you through.
When you choose to focus on and stay in a fear based mindset, you are blocking good things from coming to you. When you choose love, your energy sends out positive vibrations. The energy you send out into the world is the energy you receive back from the universe. By turning towards love, you attract more love and more positivity into your life. Be open to love. Be open to the idea that your problems will be solved in unexpected ways. Be open to creative possibilities. Believe in abundance, believe that everything will work out the way it is supposed to.
Choose to enjoy the now and expect good things to come to you.
All feelings are ok and valid but they do not have to rule you, they can pass through you. Begin a practice of letting the negative thoughts drift back to where they came from, nowhere.
You don’t need anyone to come. The reason you’re waiting for, and romanticizing the idea of, someone to come save you is because you don’t think you can do it yourself. You don’t think you are capable of mustering up the strength to accomplish what you want to accomplish. But here is the truth, you are capable. You are in the best position to change your life. In fact, you are the only person who can change your life. Others can try to make you eat the vegetables, go to therapy, tell the truth, put the bottle down, leave the toxic relationship but not until you actually want to change will you change.
Save this post and the next time you’re in a bad mood run through these three things.
The idea may be foreign to you, but you can choose the thoughts you have. You can experience a negative thought and instead of continuing on with that thought, you can choose again. You can gently release thoughts that bring you down and replace them with thoughts that bring you joy. By changing your thoughts, you gradually change your beliefs. By changing your beliefs, you change your reality. You can make any situation instantly better but simply choosing a better feeling thought.
